What is wrong with us women? The last few weeks I have been thinking of how we women compare ourselves to everything and everyone. I have been thinking of it quite frequently because, confession here, it’s been popping into my mind every time I compare myself to someone else.
We compare our jobs, our clothes, our looks, our size, our children, our education, our relationships, our homes – WE COMPARE EVERYTHING. So, maybe you are saying, “I don’t do that.” Great. You’re one of the few who doesn’t compare yourself to anyone. Go on your merry way. This isn’t for you.
We don’t always compare ourselves negatively. We compare ourselves positively too which means we are thinking negative thoughts about the person we are comparing ourselves to.
“Ugh! I cannot believe how fat I look next to her.”
“Well, I’m glad she makes me look small.”
“I cannot believe she wore THAT. I wouldn’t be caught dead in it.”
“I always look so blah and boring next to her.”
“WHY can’t my children be perfect little angels like those kids?”
“Man, am I ever glad MY kids know how to behave better than that.”
“I could never do everything she is doing. I am a failure.”
“I cannot understand how she doesn’t have it all together. She has a housekeeper, kids/no kids, stays home, etc.”
Ok, admit it. You do compare yourself to others. I think that is part of how we as women are wired. It is part of our emotional/mental system. But it doesn’t have to be so pervasive. It doesn’t have to tear us down. As women we need to look at ourselves in the mirror and say “This is who I was made to be. I am who I am and I need to be the best I can be.”
Stand in your life and OWN IT!
If you aren’t the weight you want to be, make a plan and own it.
If your kids aren’t going the direction you would like them to, look at what YOU can fix and OWN IT, but understand they are also who they are and you cannot control everything about them.
If you don’t dress the way you want to, OWN IT. Shop styles online and collect ideas you love. Then go to the store and start hunting as you can. Even Goodwill has some rocking style if you know what you are looking for. Just don’t get sidetracked by a good deal and buy something that isn’t perfect for you.
Time management got you down? Look at your schedule, figure out what needs to happen, what needs cut, and realize you don’t know what is going on in that other woman’s life when you aren’t there. Manage YOUR life and OWN IT.
If you are a Christian woman, this last bit is specifically for you. OWN WHO YOU ARE. You are God’s daughter and He gave you the life you have, the responsibilities you have. Stop comparing! This is the journey He has given you – no one else. Re-evaluate who you are and where you want to be. Take your shortcomings and hold them up to what the Bible tells you to strive for and OWN IT. Stop comparing yourself to your sister down the street. Take a look at the Proverbs 31 woman and OWN that she didn’t do it all alone. OWN that God didn’t call you to be the same as that person who may have just popped into your mind. HE CALLED YOU TO BE YOU.