This coming Sunday my husband and I will be married for 12 years. It hasn’t been easy and we have traveled through many places and things. No matter what though, it has been worth every second of the journey. We have loved together and grown together.
Tips I follow
- Not go to bed angry
- Remember to laugh together
- Make kid-free time for each other
- Marriage is 100/100 not 50/50
- Trust -have faith in him and you will lift him up
- Don’t bash
I asked friends and fellow bloggers to weigh in on their thoughts for a successful marriage. As you will see, some of them do not agree, and some of them are things that are not necessarily my view point in life. However, I feel I can learn and grow from any of them. Even things I don’t completely agree with get me thinking and make me realize what I do believe so I decided to include them all. No matter where you are in life, married, dating, single, relationship tips are a valuable tool to carry with you in life. Adapt them to where you are, tuck them away for the future, and learn and grow.
Successful Relationship Tips
- Make time as a couple without the kids. Whether it is a rented movie on the couch after the kiddos are in bed or an actual date doesn’t matter, just some quality time is what counts. Bonus if you can get a babysitter and enjoy doing something you did pre-kids that reminds you of why you love each other in the first place. ~ Beth (married 14 years) from Life in the Bat Cave,
- Sometimes you may not be able to kiss each other good night – even when in the same house. Sometimes you may not have the energy to be anything but angry before you go to bed. Sometimes life will deal you blows that are not fair and you could never prepare for. Remember – these are the sometimes in your marriage that won’t last forever. Everything changes – even the bad times. Remember you will feel stronger again. You do love each other. ~Mary Ellen (married 21 years, 11 of which they have grieved the loss of their son) from James’s Project
- Realize and accept that two strong and different personalities will ultimately have some conflict. The key is to focus on resolving the issue, and not go on without communicating. The strength of a relationship is ultimately determined by how a couple deals with negative emotions; successful relationships focus on their ultimate goal-further connection and understanding. ~ Estelle (married 8 years) from Musings on Motherhood and Mid-Life
- ALWAYS kiss one another goodnight – and never ever go to bed angry. Learn to listen to one another even in difficult times. Communication, respect, trust and love are the foundation of every great marriage. ~Kelly (married 12.5 years) from Delco Deal Diva,
- Allow yourselves to grow, change and evolve – separately and together. ~Linda (married 12 years) from Giggles, Gobbles, and Gulps
- Overlook the little annoying habits and focus on what qualities caused you to fall in love in the first place. Make a choice to be in love every day. ~Jo-Lynne (married 18 years) Musings of a Housewife
- Support each other. We all do things that the other may not agree with. Respectfully disagree, but still support each other. Be each other’s rock:) ~ Lauryn (married 10 years) from The Vintage Mom
- Accept each other’s craziness – “eventually the stink will be overtaken by the beauty of your journey.” ~ Christine Meyer MD (married 17 years)
Today I am linking up with Barb from A life in Balance for Motivation Monday. I would love for you to share YOUR tips on what makes your relationship a success.