To those who Believed
Thank you. I look back at our wedding, to the faces who loved us and supported us even if you maybe had secret doubts. You didn’t let them show and you came. Some of you traveled far distances. Some of you gave of your time and talents – to photograph, to give us home videos, to sew dresses, and spend your own money on little things you could get away with. Some of you spent late nights decorating or making food, but most of all each one of you showed love and support. I am so grateful that you are part of where we are today.
To the Doubters
Twelve years ago they said we wouldn’t make it. Too young, I needed to “see other people first”. I couldn’t possibly know what I wanted at 19 and needed to see the world first. It was voiced to me on several occasions that I should see other guys first then in a few years get married.
Seriously? Can you see how this letter would end up?
Dear boyfriend, we cannot get engaged. Please wait for me, let me date other guys for 2 years then ask me again. Signed, the girl who’s in love with you but has to date other guys first
You want to know what I have to say about that? It took me 12 years but I’m opening my mouth now. Yes, maybe young marriages have a much harder statistic to overcome. Yes, maybe young marriages aren’t always the best option. But guess what! YOU WERE WRONG! You were dead wrong. 12 years later and I have 2 regrets. Regret 1, that I didn’t put my foot down and have the wedding I wanted, forget what other people thought. Regret 2, that I actually listened, was hurt, and doubted myself over what YOU thought.
So here’s to us. We made it through some of the hardest years of our lives….together.
The one person who was by my side every single step of the way was my husband. We may not have known what we were doing half the time but we did it together and we made it through together and I wouldn’t be half the person I am today if it wasn’t for him.
I didn’t need to know who I was before I could be who I am. He believed in me every step of the way, supported me, loved me, put up with me. He completes me.
12 years later and all I can think of your advice now is how much I would have lost out on if I listened to you. You couldn’t be there to rejoice with us because you were so sure you were right. You missed out. You could have been part of our journey and you are the one who misses the joy of being part of who we are, where we are.
To my Husband
I love you so much. Even those first 360 some days of trying to figure it, I wouldn’t trade a thing, well, besides maybe not having to figure it out. But we did it. We fought against each other and for each other and we came out more solid then ever. You love me, you put up with me and guess what, I do the same for you. We have rejoiced together and mourned together. We have grown up together.
Here’s to another 12, 20, 40, 60 years. I love you and I wouldn’t trade a minute of it.
To the Wannabe Young Bride
It isn’t easy. Don’t think it’s going to be all roses and love. You gotta be in it to win it because you are going to want to quit some days. There is going to be sacrifice and you better think long and hard, pray long and hard that you are willing to make those sacrifices because you can walk away but it will leave scars. Juggling home and work, college, weird schedules, little money, pregnancy and morning sickness with 7 AM classes, then work then home to clean up, cook, assignments if you are taking classes. It isn’t easy. In fact, it’s hard. It’s really really hard. If you think you will go to school later, you can but it isn’t easy. You learn that YOU gets to go on the back burner when you have real big people responsibilities. But if you do go for it, feel free to email me. If you MIGHT want to go for it, feel free to email me. Most of all, make your decision and be prepared to live with it. It could give you the best years of your life…or the worst….most likely even both. Whatever you do, fight. Fight hard and don’t give up.